True love is an active choice, that each day you must wake up and make. Growing up and beyond I was obsessed with films featuring true love found and lost amidst uncontrollable circumstances.
That feeling of warmth, tenderness, passion, desire. The sentiment that is unconditional, irrespective of good times or bad. It seems like something everyone wants. It is almost funny then, how few people know what true love actually is.
In fact, love, at first sight, is nothing but an infatuation. It is mostly hormones. You are probably just overwhelmed by a surge of romance and often times, even lust. It is just an intense feeling of attraction that is characteristic of the first stage of love - the infatuation stage.
That is not true love. So then… What is true love? True love is an altogether different experience. It is the type of love you have for someone that defies all established logic of human behaviour. In ordinary life, human behaviour is easy to understand.
Certain actions have certain reactions. When someone hurts you, you get angry. When someone gets what you wanted, you get jealous. These are natural responses to the triggers we encounter in our day to day lives.
But all of this logic goes out of the window when it comes to true love. True Love defies all reason. You find yourself not acting based on your primal instincts when it comes to this particular person.
You love them even when they hurt you. If they get something you both wanted, you find yourself celebrating anyway. In a lot of ways, true love makes us a better human being.
What you experience in the first year or so of a relationship is infatuation and sexual attraction.Romantic Love Longing and Sexuality in Europe, South Asia, and Japan, – CE historically unusual as traits Max Weber found combined in the protestant ethic. Love breaks with sexuality while between true love, on the one hand, and desire, on the other.
The trobairitz. There is a huge difference between true love and lust or fake love; and it’s important to learn the difference for the protection of your own heart and emotions. When we fall in love with another person, it is deep; tender and beyond that love is sacrifices to make the other person happy.
The term “falling in love” is a revealing expression indicating that we sometimes lose ourselves when we are involved in a passionate romantic relationship based on conditional love. Possibly, this is because we are looking for another person to complete us rather than looking to share our whole self with another.
Difference #2 In true love, there is comfort in separate interests.
We can have our own friends and meaningful relationships outside of our romantic relationships. We can pursue interests and ideas without fear of reprimand.
In toxic love, there is total involvement in one another's lives. One can't go anywhere without the other.
Longing and ‘romantic love’ is not necessarily real love. However if infatuation becomes extreme, it can turn into an obsession which is more like an addiction.
You crave and seek a ‘rush’ all the time from the other person, like taking a drug. Love can sometimes be described as an obsession, especially in the beginning stages of a relationship. It can be challenging separating the two, but when the intensity of feelings starts to calm down, the difference between obsession and real love displays itself through partners' actions.